Friday, October 31, 2025

Forget Me Not Coffee

 Linking up with Marg at The Intrepid Reader


NOTE - Natalie of Weekend Coffee Share wrote a tribute to Trent McDonald, a contributor to her weekly posts and someone I enjoyed reading. Trent suddenly passed away after going for a jog in October. RIP, Trent.

 October 2025 - Toronto ON

Ossington Ave. Toronto 
ONE YEAR AGO Pumpkin
FIVE YEARS AGO Eat, Drink and Be Scary
TEN YEARS AGO Palm Springs Recap

SATURDAY

I was busy on my laptop when I spotted this sunrise out of the corner of my eye!


And this!


We decided on a do nothing day, even though we did some stuff.
My Christmas cactus looks like she is getting ready to flower!


John finally brought my bracelet up from the car that my BFF had restrung for me! She did  a great job.

Still on a high from last night's win!
Enjoy this beautiful Indigenous Blue Jays logo (made by Kory Parkin/@paintsbyparkin)


It was bound to happen...





SUNDAY


Gardiner Expressway from Spadina Avenue to Highway 427 closed until Monday, at least they waited until the game was over to close it.




MONDAY

John went to golf and had a 45 minute delay due to to frost warning. 

I went downtown and we flew into and out of the downtown area!!


A new opening in FCP, and they look good!!


Kind of weird, I was waiting for the elevator with another woman who had a grocery cart, we got on when suddenly someone pushed another cart on, I realized he lived on my floor and he said "could you take my cart", he had another cart. Startled as was the other woman, I took it and left it in the hall. He later stuck a thank you note in our door. Now I know his name and what his business is LOL.

I prepped a small batch of maple scones for baking in the morning.

What a ball game! We lasted until 1 AM.

I would add that it started at 8 PM EST and ended at 3 AM!
18 innings is 2 games!!!


TUESDAY

John met a friend for breakfast and then golf. I popped into the $ store for a couple of things.
Union Station.


Baseball fever is everywhere.


Then chatted with T for a while.
I got this in the mail!!!




More baseball madness! And it was mad as we won in LA!!!


WEDNESDAY

We spent the day arranging a trip for end of November, finalizing/paying the first part with a tour.

I made more scones to bake in the morning. I'm going to have to make multiple batches at a time and freeze them!

NO ROOKIE IN #WORLDSERIES HISTORY HAS MORE STRIKEOUTS IN A SINGLE GAME THAN TREY YESAVAGE!



THURSDAY 
John had an appointment and I did some administrivia before meeting him to get electronic visa photos.
Luckily the bus driver had taken the exit to Spadina, otherwise we would have been stuck as this streetcar was blocking Lake Shore. Cars were going around the back end of it to continue.


Royal York Hotel decked out in blue for the Blue Jays!


 We are going to Vietnam and Thailand for 28 days!! Vietnam requires a visa.
We have been to both countries on a river cruise but that isn't the same. Most meals were in the boat and you just get a taste of a place. Click here for our river cruise.

Also we are going to different cities although we will be in Ho Chi Minh and Bangkok for a couple of days.





We spent the rest of a rainy day doing travel research. 

FRIDAY 
I went for a haircut on a miserable drab day. There weren't very many Halloween costumes about but plenty of Blue Jays outfits!

Waiting for our Jersey Mike's sub. The line was so long I ordered online and it was faster!


This was some kind of photo shoot set up in Union, I'm guessing  LA reporters????


Top of the RBC building.


I was going to do our visa paperwork but I received an e-mail from the tour company stating that they would do it! Bonus!

We ordered a Chromebook to take away with us instead of my large laptop. We got it set up and will test it out on the weekend.

John solved an annoying cell phone problem I was having uploading photos from both our phones after a software update.

We're ready!


Sorry for all the Blue Jays images, but some are just too good!



Weeeeellllll....One more game will decide!!



Dodgers Edge Blue Jays 3-1 in Game 6, Force World Series Game 7








COOKING

Saturday - leg of lamb sprouts roast potatoes mashed turnip and carrots with chimichurri


Sunday - lamb curry rice naan
Monday - stuffed flank steak, beef gravy (homemade frozen) mashed carrots turnips and roast potatoes
Tuesday -  leftovers 
Wednesday - fish chowder finishing up what we had in the freezer. 
Thursday - chicken wings and fries
Friday - steak fajitas, yes for the third week in a row. That will be the last of the Costco steak that we didn't particularly enjoy but it worked well sliced up with onions and peppers with tomato salsa, and all the other toppings. 


WATCHING
BASEBALL



Flight or Fight s a 2025 action comedy film. It stars Josh Hartnett as a man who is recruited to identify and protect a wanted criminal aboard a commercial airline. This was a fun, silly movie, perfect for a Saturday afternoon.

We finished The Diplomat season 3 - what a ride!!

I'm watching an Australian series The Family Next Door as I cook. It is getting more intriguing. 

READING


I read The Woman Who Lied, and I'm not lying when I say I got a little confused at one point as there are stories within stories. I thought I had the villain at the beginning but then kept changing my mind. It was a good read and I borrowed another of hers.

 





family, brought down a British prince with her truth and extraordinary courage," Virginia Giuffre's family declared in a statement after King Charles III's unprecedented announcement on Thursday that he is stripping his brother Andrew of his prince title and evicting him from the Royal Lodge, his 30-room mansion in Windsor Great Park. Andrew will now be known simply as Andrew Mountbatten Windsor, losing not only his "His Royal Highness" designation but also his membership in the Order of the Garter and his Knight Grand Cross of the Victorian Order. 

“Virginia Roberts Giuffre, our sister, a child when she was sexually assaulted by Andrew, never stopped fighting for accountability for what had happened to her and to countless other survivors like her," the statement by her family continues. "Today, she declares victory." The family further asserted that they, along with Virginia's "survivor sisters," will continue her battle and "will not rest until the same accountability applies to all of the abusers and abettors connected to Jeffrey Epstein and Ghislaine Maxwell.”

Virginia was only 16 years old when Ghislaine Maxwell approached her while working the front desk at Donald Trump's Mar-a-Lago resort spa in Palm Beach, Florida, in 2000. Within hours of that fateful encounter, Virginia found herself ensnared in Jeffrey Epstein's horrific world of sexual abuse and trafficking -- a nightmare that would last for years but that she would spend the rest of her life courageously fighting to expose. Tragically, Virginia died by suicide last April at age 41, but the release of her posthumous memoir, "Nobody's Girl: A Memoir of Surviving Abuse and Fighting for Justice," last week, has already sparked major consequences: in particular, driving the royal family to hold Andrew accountable for his actions at long last. 

Virginia's childhood had already been shattered by abuse before she ever met Epstein. She had been sexually abused as a child, ran away from home, and lived on the streets for a time as a teenager. She was trying desperately to rebuild her life through honest work at Mar-a-Lago when Maxwell approached her. Maxwell asked if she was interested in learning massage, then invited her to meet "a wealthy man" who needed a traveling massage therapist. That evening, at Epstein's nearby pink mansion, Maxwell led her upstairs to find Epstein naked on a massage table in what began as a seemingly legitimate massage lesson that quickly became something far more sinister.

Virginia recalled feeling uncomfortable but trying to stay calm, telling herself not to 'blow this chance' at what seemed like a huge opportunity for a vulnerable girl with few prospects. Maxwell's calm demeanor throughout made Virginia question her own instincts -- every time she felt a "twinge of discomfort," one glance at Maxwell told her she was overreacting even when Epstein rolled over fully aroused. Maxwell then began removing her own clothes and Virginia's, and both Epstein and Maxwell proceeded to sexually abuse her. Virginia remembered feeling "a familiar emptiness" flood her, and how her brain began to shut down: "My body couldn't escape from this room, but my mind couldn't bear to stay, so it put me on a kind of autopilot: submissive and determined to survive."

The abuse continued for years and grew increasingly violent. Epstein made Virginia quit her job at Mar-a-Lago and work for him full-time, showing her a grainy photograph of her younger brother at school. His message was chilling and clear: "You must never tell a soul what goes on in this house," he told her, adding, "I own the Palm Beach police department, so they won't do anything about it." Virginia described being "lent out" to Epstein's friends -- billionaires, politicians, academics whose research Epstein funded. She was flown around the world for sexual assignations with powerful men.

Over time, Epstein developed what Virginia described as an interest in sadomasochistic sex, and began to "experiment with whips and restraints and other instruments of torture." She wrote: "In session after session, he would play out various fantasies, with me as the victim." The chains and contraptions he used on her "caused so much pain that I prayed I would black out," she recalled. "When I did, I'd awaken to more abuse." The physical toll was devastating -- dark circles appeared under her eyes and her ribs became visible beneath her skin. Rather than showing any care, Epstein was "disgusted" at her appearance. "'You're not the same girl you were,' Epstein said coldly. 'You need to clean yourself up,'" she wrote.

She alleges that in March 2001, during a trip to London, Maxwell woke her announcing that she would meet Prince Andrew that evening. Maxwell took her shopping for outfits, and that night at Maxwell's townhouse, after dinner and dancing at a nightclub, Maxwell told Virginia directly: "When we get home, you are to do for him what you do for Jeffrey." Virginia recalled that Andrew "was friendly enough, but still entitled -- as if he believed having sex with me was his birthright." The next morning, she said, Maxwell told her: "You did well. The prince had fun."

Virginia alleges she was forced to have sex with Andrew two more times -- once at Epstein's New York townhouse and again at an orgy on Epstein's private island that included approximately eight other young girls who "all appeared to be under the age of 18 and didn't really speak English." A short time later, Virginia said she "wasn't in great shape," experiencing irregular bleeding and tenderness in her abdomen. She woke up one morning in a "pool of blood." Epstein took her to a hospital, where she was taken to an examination room, though she says pain medication affected her memory of what happened next. Epstein later told her that she had suffered a miscarriage.

The trauma of not knowing what truly happened to her body, and suspecting Epstein may have conspired with doctors to keep the truth from her, added another layer to her suffering. Even decades later, she wrote that the memories of what Epstein put her through "torture" her, and that she feared she might "die a sex slave" at the hands of Epstein and his circle.

What makes Virginia's story so extraordinary is not just what was done to her, but what she did in response. The birth of her daughter years later ignited something fierce within Virginia. Her brother Danny Wilson remembered her determination: "Her biggest push was, 'If I don't do this, nobody's going to do it.'" In 2011, Virginia stepped forward publicly, and from that moment, she became an unstoppable force for justice.

She founded the nonprofit Victims Refuse Silence (later renamed Speak Out, Act, Reclaim, or SOAR) to help other survivors overcome the shame and silence that so often keeps victims trapped. When Maxwell called her a "liar," Virginia sued her for defamation and won. When Prince Andrew denied everything, she sued him too, ultimately securing a settlement in 2022 estimated at £12 million -- part of which went directly to supporting other trafficking survivors through SOAR.

Virginia's courage was contagious. Other Epstein survivors have said repeatedly that she gave them the strength to come forward with their own stories. Her lawyer, Sigrid McCawley, called her "an incredible champion for other victims," while her longtime spokesperson Dini von Mueffling described her as "a beacon to other survivors and victims." Her family said simply: "The world lost a fierce warrior. She wished for all survivors to get justice. That is who she was."

Even as she faced skepticism, victim-blaming, and powerful people trying to discredit her, Virginia never wavered. She provided critical information to law enforcement that helped secure Ghislaine Maxwell's conviction on sex-trafficking charges in 2021. Her testimony and advocacy were instrumental in bringing one of the most powerful trafficking operations in modern history to light. The impact of Virginia's relentless fight is undeniable. Maxwell is now serving 20 years in prison. Epstein died by suicide in 2019 while awaiting trial, unable to escape justice. And now, Andrew is facing accountability after years of denial and inaction.

Yet the fight Virginia championed is far from over. She and many other Epstein survivors have called for the complete release of the "Epstein Files" -- federal investigative documents that may contain evidence of other powerful men's involvement in the trafficking ring. The Trump administration initially promised transparency, with Attorney General Pam Bondi telling Fox News in February 2025 that an Epstein client list was "sitting on my desk right now to review." But in July 2025, the Justice Department reversed course, releasing a memo stating no further documents would be released and claiming no "client list" existed. Many advocates, including bipartisan members of Congress, have condemned this reversal as a betrayal. The continued delays have been a source of deep frustration and pain for survivors who believe full transparency is essential for accountability and healing.

In a handwritten journal entry found after her death, Virginia wrote: "Mothers, Fathers, Sisters, and Brothers need to show the battle lines are drawn, and stand together to fight for the future of victims. Is protesting the answer? I don't know. But we've got to start somewhere." Her family shared this message with the world, adding: "Survivors should know that she's with you and her voice will not be silenced. I know that it's so important, and her wish is that we continue to fight." In the last email Virginia sent to her co-author Amy Wallace before her death, she made her wishes clear: "In the case of my passing, I need and want this book to be published -- not just for me, but for all survivors."

Virginia Giuffre transformed her victimization into a movement. She refused to let wealth and power silence her. She fought not just for herself but for every girl and woman who had been exploited by Epstein and Maxwell, and for those who would come after. Co-author Amy Wallace observed that Virginia's story resonates beyond sexual abuse because "wealthy people, powerful people get to treat people less wealthy terribly. And I think that's why it resonates beyond sexual abuse. I think people are sick of it."

Virginia spent her adult life ensuring the world would never forget what happened to her and countless others. She brought down some of the most powerful people on earth and gave voice to the voiceless. Though she is gone, her legacy lives on in every survivor who finds the courage to speak, in every demand for transparency and accountability, and in every blow struck against those who believe their power places them above the law. As her family said: "Virginia was a fierce warrior in the fight against sexual abuse and sex trafficking. She was the light that lifted so many survivors." That light has not been extinguished -- it burns on in the survivors and advocates demanding the release of the complete Epstein Files and fighting for the justice and healing Virginia so desperately sought for all victims.

To read more about Virginia Roberts Giuffre's story in her powerful new memoir "Nobody’s Girl: A Memoir of Surviving Abuse and Fighting for Justice," visit https://amzn.to/4nZbSAZ (Amazon) and https://bookshop.org/a/8011/9780593493120 (Bookshop)

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- Take action to support survivors! There is a bipartisan discharge petition in Congress that would force a vote on the Epstein Files Transparency Act, which would require the DOJ to release all Epstein files. To see if your Representative is standing with survivors, you can view the signers at https://clerk.house.gov/DischargePetition/2025090209

- If your representative has not signed the discharge petition, there is an action alert to contact them on this issue at 5 Calls at https://5calls.org/issue/release-epstein-files

- To learn more the organization Virginia founded to help survivors of sex trafficking, visit https://www.speakoutactreclaim.org/

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Raising kids to have empathy for others and an understanding of consent is one of the most important things parents can do to help reduce the incidence of sexual assault. To teach children -- girls and boys alike -- about the need to respect others and their personal boundaries, we recommend "Let's Talk About Body Boundaries, Consent, and Respect" for ages 4 to 7 (https://www.amightygirl.com/body-boundaries) and "Consent (for Kids!)" for ages 6 to 10 (https://www.amightygirl.com/consent-for-kids)

There is also a helpful guide for teens on topics such as consent and coercion, "Real Talk About Sex and Consent: What Every Teen Needs to Know," for ages 13 and up at https://www.amightygirl.com/real-talk-about-sex-and-consent

For an excellent book for older teens and adults about the early warning signs of abusive relationships, myths about abusive personalities, and how to get help, we highly recommend "Why Does He Do That?: Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men" at https://www.amightygirl.com/why-does-he-do-that

If you know a teen girl struggling after sexual abuse or trauma, “The Sexual Trauma Workbook for Teen Girls: A Guide to Recovery from Sexual Assault and Abuse” may help at https://www.amightygirl.com/sexual-trauma-workbook-girls

For several fictional stories that address rape and sexual violence and offer a helpful way to spark conversations with young adult readers around sexual assault, we recommend "Speak" for ages 14 and up (https://www.amightygirl.com/speak), "Girl Made of Stars" for ages 14 and up (https://www.amightygirl.com/girl-made-of-stars), and "The Way I Used To Be" for ages 15 and up (https://www.amightygirl.com/the-way-i-used-to-be)

Thanks to ABC News for sharing this image!

HAPPY HALLOWEEN

 


Mark Carney

 This is our country, and we decide what happens next.




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